HEY, I was attached to that...

It's natural to want things.

Yet, have you ever wanted something so badly that you become more attached to having it and less secure about getting it? The mental whine tugs at you "It's not here yet," "But that's not what I said I wanted," or "I will get this no matter what the cost."

When you want something, and aren't getting it in the manner or time frame that you want it in, it can feel easy to get twisted up, anxious, scared, or other garden varieties of fear. If that's happening on a consistent basis, you start unconsciously lying to yourself ("I don't get what I want") and begin to stress your body in ways you might not realize.

How often do you feel frustrated over the gap between where you are and where you want to be?

If your answer to that was more often than not, keep reading. I'll be sharing a few tips with you in a moment about how to feel better. First, I want to say this:

Wanting isn't the issue. It's good to want. Get excited about new things, people, experiences. Why not? Seriously, why not? Wanting is fun.

Attachment, though, not so fun. When you're busy reacting to life because of attachments to your wants, you miss what's happening now and the good feeling of desire itself. As you might have noticed, the only constant is change. Sometimes life changes in the way we want it too. Sometimes it doesn't.
Do your best to move it in the direction you want, and try the following suggestions in lieu of attachments next time you get caught up in your wants. 

Let yourself feel
Resisting your resistance never helps. It's natural to feel a range of feelings. Just like your wants, feel them, and let it pass. If you let yourself experience the feeling rather than wish it away, it will actually go away faster.

Look around you
Everything in your environment is a result of something you wanted at some point. It doesn't matter if it no longer suits you or not. The point is to see that you get your wants realized. As before, it will be again.

"It's OK"
Say this to yourself. A few times. It interrupts the program of focusing on fear - fear of not getting what you want, fear of getting what you want, fear of anything. If you find yourself thinking, "No, it's not OK," that's good too. Revisit step 1, and proceed again.

To your peace and your wants - whether you get them or not.