Have you ever had someone listen to you? Really listen to you? You know it's happening when you feel yourself automatically becoming more at ease, relaxed in your body, able to breathe deeply, as if the space around you has expanded. I was able to give someone this gift today.
The stresses of life - good or bad - impact us. We are affected by the energy of change. While having a positive outlook is definitely helpful, there are those times when emotions come up and feelings can be the opposite of positive. Truth is, there is no stress, experience, or feeling that's good or bad at its core. It's just an experience of being alive and we respond to life with a wide range of thoughts and feelings. It's all OK.
It's just that, sometimes we forget that we need support along the way. I think we all have the superhero "I can do it on my own" complex to a certain degree. Maybe it's the stubborn inner kid in us, struggling for independence. Or the so called proud part of our personality. Either way, it takes a very brave and courageous person to say "Would you mind listening? I have something to share."
The power of friendship, community, and the presence of supportive people in our lives make a HUGE difference. No matter what role you are in - as the talker or the listener - both are receiving benefits from giving and receiving. In fact, there's no difference between the two of those.
Is there something you've been wanting to clear your head and heart about? Reach out. Feeling clear? Be the listener and transform both of your lives.
I love your statement that no experience is either good or bad at its core. It's just the experience of being alive. That's good stuff.
Posted by: Angie Cox | March 27, 2009 at 09:04 AM