As a coach, I know the importance of focusing on the good stuff, noticing what's working well, looking for and creating solutions. Nobody wants to be stuck on stupid, like a broken record, repeating what they don't like about their life. Yet, if that's the case, why is it that so many continue to be like that? Addicted to drama? Not knowing how to shift gears and open up to what's possible? Habit? Maybe all of the above.
Do you know someone like that, someone who repeats the same limiting stories over and over? Or someone who ends all sentences with "That's the way it is," or "That can't happen." Perhaps you find yourself in this category. If so, what's the incentive? There's always a pay off and benefit for being how you are, for better or for worse. When you can answer this question, it helps liberate you from feeling "stuck." So go ahead and ask yourself, or that co-worker/friend/partner, "What am I/are you getting out of this, out of being this way?"
The answer might surprise you, especially when you allow yourself to be totally honest and vulnerable to feeling your feelings. Here's the good news, just by asking the question, the grip of being stuck loosens. Ha! You don't even need to know the answer sometimes. Make it simple, ask, and set yourself free.
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